My mother knows the Big K is asthmatic and his diet is complicated by ADHD. He has strict food restrictions. She will feed him curd in plenty at dinner and wonder why the poor child is coughing all night. My mother feeds him every restricted item on the ADHD list behind our backs. She indulges him in sweet and fried items and we all have to deal with his sugar-highs.
She enables any bad behaviour on his part and encourages him to tease and boss over the Little K in our absence because she is “only a girl and is younger to him.” It has taken many years of consistent effort for us to improve his physical and emotional health. We have worked hard to discourage gender stereotypes in our home and explain to the children that they are different but equal.