As part of her training, a traditional Indian girl learns to obey her elders and acknowledge the superiority of the males of her family – younger or older. She learns to suppress her opinions or express them in such a way that she does not offend other members of the family.When she can crucify herself effectively and smile doing it, she has the adequate amount of mamta.
While Indian motherhood establishes her identity, and gives a direction to her mamta, it also brings with it its uniquely Indian challenges. Indian mothers are held entirely responsible for the value system that an Indian child subscribes to. However, the value system that she is expected to inculcate in her children is not some Decalogue that she has worked out in the course of her life. Oh no! It is an amalgam of values, attitudes and lifestyle choices subscribed to by her marital home.