Saturday, December 18, 2010
When I was growing up, the idea of remaining single was considered impractical, radical (in a bad way) and even stupid. When men and women reached “the marriageable age,” they were more concerned about the kind of person they wanted to marry rather than whether they wanted to be married at all. It was assumed that everyone wanted to be married - of course, they did.
Friday, December 17, 2010
Most of my friends accuse me of allowing people to push me around. They say that I don't stand up for myself and "give as good as I get" as much as I ought to until I reach "breaking-off" point. This seems strange especially since I "seem" a sensible person with a healthy self-esteem and a fair idea of feminism and my rights as a human being.
Friday, December 10, 2010
The email has opened a can of worms in several marital closets and set the stage for discussions on why women put up with what they do. Especially, when they seem to have options. While the Known Devil syndrome and the Stockholm Syndrome do play a large role, there are several niggling issues that hold women back and theses are often not identified or addressed.
Thursday, December 09, 2010
The recent debates at Indian Home Maker's blog triggered by this email, seemed very close to the thoughts that have been running in my own head for a couple of weeks now. The people who enter marriages today are very different from those who entered marriages in the past.
Until a couple of generations back, most women were unable to support themselves financially. Post marriage, the entire care of the woman fell upon her marital home. Throughout her life, a woman expected to be supported financially and emotionally by her marital family.