Platonic relationships.. Men who think of women as friends. Women who think of men as friends.
When both are unattached, can you be soulmates and yet not wonder if it's love or lust or mere friendship?
When you have a great friend of the opposite sex who is not your partner but is always there - staying over, hanging out, talking about everything under the sun, watching out for you, do you wonder if this person is just looking to be laid or do you take what he/she gives with as unprejudiced a mind as from a person of the same sex?
I know there are people (several of my friends) who understand that when I say "You're a great pal," I mean that. After all I should know my own mind, right?
Also met chaps who thought that we would be really good together. If I didn't feel the same way, some felt I had cheated them and we parted bitterly. I regret them as friends. We were such good pals. Other more mature people acknowledged the attraction, vocalised it, respected the decision, chose to do what best worked for us - friendship.
But somewhere along the road there comes a creep, who chooses to think himself cheated and chooses to take revenge. I have never met one of the kind, but this has just happened to someone I know very well.
They were great pals and just because she didn't want to go out with him, he felt cheated and misled. And I have no idea what he got by his cheap revenge. He lost a great pal. He lost the companionship which he valued. She paid a very high price for being his pal. But she'll recover for she wasn't the one who sold her soul for 30 peices of silver.
And I don't know what to say. Makes me think big deep destructive thoughts - homicide, castration, incarceration, public humiliation. But mostly... I feel pity. And disgust. And loathing. Like earthworms wriggling on top of each other when the spring showers fall. You don't even wanna crush them. For they emanate such a bad smell even dead. And they are loathsome both ways.
6 comments:
Platonic relations are nice things to imagine.But practically i don't know.There are alot of things involve.There's a very subtle difference between love and lust and if two persons are really close mentally one time will come,surely,when they'll go for sharing their physical emotions.Take the case of Lady Chatterlyez Lover.Mrs.Chatterlye failed to arouse Mr.Chatterlye and thatz not only bcoz of physiq bcoz that maid who uased to take care of him became his real partner and finally that invalid Mr.Chatterlye started to visit his coal-mines again in a wheel chair.On the other hand Anna Karenina left her home,children and everything for Vronsky but finally she found that there's no love betn. them and she commits suicide(one point here, Anna karenina is not madame Bovery).
So in relationship,nobody knows waht really matters.Culturally Mr.&Mrs.Chatterlye were closer but lady chatterlyez lover,that game-keeper was an illiterate and for Mr.chtterlye,an intellectual,ultimately fall in love with an illeterate housekeeping maid.Moreover,for Anna karenina,Vronsky was a perfect match (apparently) but it was not so really.
So nobody really knows which brings what,that is,body calls for soul or soul calls for body.But at a certain point body should come.Thatz for certain and itz not a matter of morality or something.Itz a matter of reality.I would like to quote a poem here:
Crazy Jane On God
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[ William Butler Yeats]
http://quotations.about.com/cs/poemlyrics/a/Crazy_Jane_On_G.htm
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That lover of a night
Came when he would,
Went in the dawning light
Whether I would or no;
Men come, men go;
All things remain in God.
Banners choke the sky;
Men-at-arms tread;
Armoured horses neigh
In the narrow pass:
All things remain in God.
Before their eyes a house
That from childhood stood
Uninhabited, ruinous,
Suddenly lit up
From door to top:
All things remain in God.
I had wild Jack for a lover;
Though like a road
That men pass over
My body makes no moan
But sings on:
All things remain in God.
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I get where u r coming from .Have had to think about the same thing a lot lately .Am glad I stumbled upon this post!
@deobscureman
that was a lovely poem :)
I am glad that I read your latest post about usefulness of your blog before I posted something trivializing this particular post.
I realize now, what kind of act this asshole has committed. I would like to see this guy brought to justice as fast as possible before he think he can get away with this.
I am sure your friend is very strong person and will be able to overcome the pain she is going through. Amen.
@Summit: This is India. Ensconced in the cocoon of regular family life, few of us come up against the legal system supposedly built to defend us or society that supposedly exists for companionship.
Question No 1, from these twin socio-judical pillars is "Why did you have to be friends with a person of the opposite sex? Didn't you know what you were letting yourself in for when you hang out at his place?"
Option open to all survivors of any kind of victimisation, zip your lips and try to move on. Been there, done that, Summit, though in a slightly differnt context. I know what I'm talking about.
Careless, I think I understand. Hang in there, girl.
this is awesome read...
pictured well the reality of the day
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