And then they write to the producers letters that begin with "Life can be such a beautiful thing. You probably have no idea about this but my wife and I moved into a new house and it wasn’t haunted. Not all houses are haunted. I am sure that you don’t realize this." Otherwise called "Explaining the obvious."
Now how would the producer of an extreme horror flick react to this? "Dude, don't watch my movie if it so upsets you! There's lots of folks who enjoy this. This is for them. You like the nice side of life? Watch Maid in Manhattan or The Princess Bride. And yes I realize that not all houses are haunted though my tagline asks you to be careful. In fact I live in an unhaunted house myself. " Now that's a rational answer, right?
But in this instance, he is being funny. He is being the genius at satire that he is. His observations don’t give me a complex about my gender. I don’t want to shoot off an email and tell him that women are wonderful and he needs to look at this rationally. At the very maximum, he gives me a complex about not being as good with the English language as he is. Otherwise called "Having a sense of humor."
(a) not expressing the kind of things that I like to watch or
(b) not the kind of humor I can smile at,
I simply avoid that content. I don’t as a rule assume that it is my duty to read it and then get worked up and write about it. Now this is now I function. I simply don't blogsurf a lot. And when a blog description seems very hate/anti against women, and if I feel that it's a direct attack on me as a representative of my sex, I DO NOT waste my time going thru the blog and passing comments.
A blog to me is someone’s therapy, someone's diary, someone's movie. It’s a public space to vent out your feelings, throw up idea in the air and see what I make of it. It’s a place where I think aloud. And record every thought and philosophy of the moment. I might change my mind. I may even record the process of change. Sometimes I think thoughts that are very serious. More often I blog about stuff that I just noticed was passing my mind.
Many of my statements are extreme. So what? How many of us have said that we could kill somebody? Not being Wilde, my statements are less easily laughed off. Lately I have noticed that some men visit my blog and find me anti-male, angry, frustrated, immature, unbalanced.. whatever. And they leave comments that tell me so. I have had no time to respond to each of them individually. And I have this funny feeling that they are sitting somewhere feeling happy that they scored. Or that they scared me off blogging.
There are the sad, sexually frustrated creatures and those who explain the obvious (motherhood not possible w/o a man.) Now how do they expect me to respond? I could flutter my eyelids and say, “Really!!!!???” to the former and “Thank you so much. I never knew men were that important!!!!” to the latter.
But I choose to say.. “First, I have been so busy I didn’t get time to either blog or respond to comments. And secondly, stop making yourselves ridiculous!!!!! It’s not even funny!!!!”