It’s amazing how much in need of protection I seem to be. Here’s this "person" from the male species who makes friends with me on Orkut. We exchange couple of e-mails and phone numbers. He seems normal.
He claims to be a committed Christian, asks for my number and then calls me with a tragic story of how he has been a perfect cad. Well, he’s a cad and feeling blue about his caddishness. How on earth am I supposed to react! “It’s alright child, these things happen?!!!”
And then conversation switches from his life to mine. With complete focus on my love life. "So you’ve NEVER had a boyfriend?" "Did you NEVER date?" "Was studying ALL you did in Canada?" "What are you, some kind of NUN?" "Are all those guys on your Orkurt list JUST friends? Nothing else going on between you’ll?"
I have to mention here that this guy is an adult, makes quite a large amount of money ( so probably people think he's smart); he works in an ad agency of all places. This was our FIRST conversation.
And then today he sees this message a pal has left for me asking me to meet up in the evening. He calls at 7:30.
“Where are you?”
“Just leaving for my walk.”
“I know, I know. You are going to meet this guy.”
“Which one?”
“The one who left that message. I read it, bloody hell”
“Have you nothing in life to do other than stalking me around Orkut?”
“Bloody hell, so are you going to meet him?”
“I’m leaving for my walk. Unlikely I’ll be in time to meet him. And how does it concern you one way or the other?”
“Bloody hell, there’s so many guys wanting to meet you. Better be careful.”
Went on in this vein for a while. Ended with me saying, “I’m 30 and I’ve managed to take care of myself all these years. At 25 you’re angst ridden and possessive and protective about some woman you’ve known for a week and have not even met.”
He apparently was "hurt".
What is this with men? There’s too much brain damage there!!! Every *@#! in the *@#! system thinks he is the custodian of India’s moral fabric which will *@#! be rent in two if women live like other people do.
Darshan suggests that I chill and says that it “takes one asshole to recognize another.” What I appreciate is that Darshan, though he has the misfortune to be male, has a keen sense of awareness of the foibles of his sex.
Got over this miserable experience by walking up to the Hussain Sagar and sitting by the banks with Rhea bitching about life and men. Watching the lights reflected on the water like some crazy waterfall. Mother Nature, being a Single Mum, is wise enough to provide some comfort to make up for the mess she made of our mates.
4 comments:
lolz...third time lucky 2 b mentioned in ur blog...newez don sweat it out so much..its not only u who needs protection but everybody...everybody includin me..i have ppl stalkin me n i don even no...lolz..but wel dats my biggest hi..so jus chill..;)
I hate being controlled in ANY way Darsh. Gets to me BIG TIME! He read my blog, wrote in and apologised. Said he was joking. Probably. But yes, it did get to me. Not just that he did that but that almost all the men I know try to. Let them a little within your area and they want to play bodyguard, as if you were living without a brain all this while. If I want protection, I'll ask. if people can help then without the "I told you so"s taht's real friendship. Otherwise its too in-your-face! Won't take it from acquaintences.
but i do no girls who give reasons 2 make guys feel like dat..but i gez dats not a reason enuf 4 ur situation unles u gave them a reason...n 1st the situation is diff here..so d above does not apply..u no wat u need? ohri's bull's eye...its aweeeesome!!!
lol... Darsh.. All my trials can be cured with Ohri's Bull's Eye? Now you know why I like you so much. You are such a guy!
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